WHY DO WE NEED THE KIN PROJECT?
Pretty much everyone wants some sort of personal change. It could be dropping some weight, climbing up the career ladder, or simply learning how to get along better with certain family members, namely the ones who wouldn't know what tact was if it punched them in the face.
Most people would also like to see some changes made to the world around them. Perhaps you want to alter something in the political sphere, address an environmental issue, or just enjoy a local change, such as having a "Breakfast in Bed" delivery service open in your town on the very morning you wake up with a hangover.
The problem is that change is hard. It's hard for a whole bunch of reasons, but below are five of the most common.
We're all drowning in information - it comes at us all the time, from every angle.
Every day, it seems there's a new study telling us that yet another innocuous food or activity will undoubtedly give us cancer.
The number of disasters and atrocities around the world seems to be multiplying exponentially. There's always a fresh catastrophe somewhere.
I don't know about you, but I end up feeling completely overwhelmed. I want to do the right thing but I don't know where to start.
WE'RE A LITTLE BIT LAZY
I want to do LOTS of things. I also don't want to have to get out of my pajamas. Perhaps you want to eradicate poverty, become a millionaire, or develop a six pack... it's just that staying in bed is much easier.
You might really intend to learn another language, but for some odd reason, busting open ye olde French grammar book after work is very unappealing.
Instead, maybe you find yourself lolling about on your sofa like a pudgy little koala (if koalas liked wine and Netflix).
No? Just me?
SHORT ON TIME & MONEY
"I should really join the gym but I'm just way too tired after work."
"I'd love to volunteer but I spend all weekend taking the kids to football / gymnastics / piano."
"I'd happily donate to every charity out there if I made more money."
"I know I should eat more organic food but it's so expensive!"
WE MAKE IT TOO HARD
Often, when we want to make a change, we make it way more difficult than it needs to be. I have a friend who keeps deciding to lose weight. He starts insane exercise regimes such as joining a daily military fitness class, running to and from that class, and subsisting solely on protein shakes. Needless to say, he can never keep it up, he reverts back to his old habits and any weight he loses creeps back on.
Recently, we met up, and he looked thinner than he had in years. I asked him what plan had finally done the trick. Sheepishly, he said, "Well, for the past couple of months, I've been walking to and from work and drinking less."
Sometimes, we need to just K.I.S.S.: Keep it simple, stupid.
SELF-HELP FEELS SELFISH
"I'm starting with the man in the mirror... I'm asking him to change his ways..."
Thanks to Michael Jackson, I'm aware that to change the world, you've got to change yourself first. Never let it be said that pop music doesn't teach important lessons. It's just sometimes self-help is awfully self-absorbed, isn't it? Maybe chanting affirmations at your reflection in the mirror will boost your sense of worth, but volunteering at a local charity might actually be more effective.
The Kin Project is about improving yourself but with the bigger picture in mind.
BUT I FIND CHANGE EASY?
You may be one of those enviable superstars who has got it all under control. Change isn't scary to you; you've accomplished a lot; you're working your rear-end off towards some more important goals; you're content with your relationships... All in all, you're pretty satisfied that you're doing all you need to be doing to keep 'winning' at life.
There's still plenty of reason to join The Kin Project, number one being to ensure your actions in life are aligned with your values. For example, if you care about the environment, but have a dirty shopping habit, it's time to make a few little tweaks.
Also - as Kevin Spacey said, "If you're lucky enough to do well, it's your responsibility to send the elevator back down." There is always an element of 'luck' to success. The decent thing to do is lend a hand to those who may not have enjoyed the same luck.